Julie....I know married women could and can enter convents, but not while their husband was still alive. Holy Orders is a Catholic sacrament and is likened to being married to Christ, hence Brides of Christ...
So unless the marriage was annulled she would never have been accepted into the order. Also, Mary MacKillop was already on the outer from the church powers that be and certainly would not have accepted someone who would have caused more trouble......not in that way anyhow.
The archivist at St Joeys is having a ball playing with this at the moment. I've not heard anyone have so much fun for ages....lol
I think also, if by some chance the order did know and that is why the grave is as it is, they would have that somewhere in their records and not keep bringing it up for people to speculate on.
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